Ah yes, but theres a big difference between discussing feelings and lifestyles, and leading with 'My brother died horribly in front of my sister, but look at all the cool stuff im getting!'. And then actually listing the inventory before casually mentioning 'sure I'll miss him, but he was a fool for how he lived... oh, and here's a few more things I'm getting...'
You can try to spin it any way that makes you feel better, but those were/are douchebag moves.