So i need some advice. My brother in law of whom my wife and I do not care for, asked to borrow my 3 year old sons tricycle for a youth group function. I was not to keen to this idea because I knew that 100lb+ kids would be riding it (tricycle race). But my wife and I being the nice giving people we are decided to let them borrow it. They said if anything happened to it that they would replace it. I'm thinking if it were me I would have just bough a tricycle just for this event. Well they just returned it last night. When he dropped it off I didn't go out and look at it. (I didn't want to make a big deal about it) I was giving him the benefit of the doubt. As he was leaving he said, "the seat got bent a little but other than that it was fine." I thought no big deal I'll bend the seat back...but..........I went out to look at it this morning and..... The bent seat is the least of its problems. The forks are spread and bent backwards, the neck bearing are gone and the entire steering stem is slopping around in the neck with about 3/16 of an inch of slop all the way around. The bars are bent.(it was in great condition before they took it) If my son was to ride it in a straight line the bars would have to be turned to the left about 45 degrees.......Long story short it got tweaked up pretty bad and he tried to drop it of and say that it just needed the seat to be adjusted. That is what probably upset me the most. So, I thought about how to approach this situation in an adult manner. So I gave it 24 hours then I sent him an email. Out conversation went as follows...I removed the names.
ME-
"Hey Brother in-law, I just had a chance to look at that tricycle. I don't know if you had a chance to really look at it,but it is in really bad shape. I'm not trying to be picky, but I don't feel comfortable letting My son ride it. I don't know how you want to handle this........let me know. Thanks.
Brother in-law-
"Hey,
Thanks again for letting me borrow it. I guess I didn't look it over that closely. I noticed the seat was bent, but I thought that could be fixed. If you don't feel safe letting it be used, that's fine though.
I will replace it for you. I think your wife said that your son doesn't really ride it at the time being and with it being too cold to ride it within the next month I'd appreciate it if I could look for a deal on one over the next several months.
If I remember correctly I think my parents got that at a yard sale and gave it as a gift. If you'd prefer, I could give you $10 to look for a different one at a yard sale in the spring.
Just let me know what you prefer,"
This bike was a birthday gift for our son from my wives parents, but I dont really think that matters how we got it. The point is they borrowed something of my sons, destroyed it, then returned it. I realize this may seem petty but i just get sick of people doing this crap! I would have been embarrassed to return an item in this condition. I would have dropped off a brand new tricycle and an apology. I am sorry for the rant but I just needed some advice on how to responding this. My wife doesn't want me to start a family feud but I am ready to put on the war paint and start beating my drum!! WHAT WOULD YOU DO?????
ME-
"Hey Brother in-law, I just had a chance to look at that tricycle. I don't know if you had a chance to really look at it,but it is in really bad shape. I'm not trying to be picky, but I don't feel comfortable letting My son ride it. I don't know how you want to handle this........let me know. Thanks.
Brother in-law-
"Hey,
Thanks again for letting me borrow it. I guess I didn't look it over that closely. I noticed the seat was bent, but I thought that could be fixed. If you don't feel safe letting it be used, that's fine though.
I will replace it for you. I think your wife said that your son doesn't really ride it at the time being and with it being too cold to ride it within the next month I'd appreciate it if I could look for a deal on one over the next several months.
If I remember correctly I think my parents got that at a yard sale and gave it as a gift. If you'd prefer, I could give you $10 to look for a different one at a yard sale in the spring.
Just let me know what you prefer,"
This bike was a birthday gift for our son from my wives parents, but I dont really think that matters how we got it. The point is they borrowed something of my sons, destroyed it, then returned it. I realize this may seem petty but i just get sick of people doing this crap! I would have been embarrassed to return an item in this condition. I would have dropped off a brand new tricycle and an apology. I am sorry for the rant but I just needed some advice on how to responding this. My wife doesn't want me to start a family feud but I am ready to put on the war paint and start beating my drum!! WHAT WOULD YOU DO?????