Awesome! A ton of useful stuff, I made some notes below. Thank you so much for your detailed response. There were several things that I needed to double check that this pointed out.
1. Retested, everything tests clean I'm thinking about replacing the battery ground cable just in case the frame ground is testing clean but not clean enough for the amperage for the starter
2. Brand new battery, plus the old one was turning it last week. Tried both, same result
3. 30a per the manual. I stuck in a 16g wire to test and it caught fire
4. Disconnected horn, brake light switch, throttle switch, speedo, tach, idiot lights and the ignition. Still blowing
5. This sounds very interesting, and cheaper than blowing a pile of fuses.
6. Someone did a pretty serious hack job on the wiring. There are no after market parts but she has had quite a few unskilled hands on her (myself included)
7. Tested with my second meter. Same result. (good call though, this has burned me before)
8. This is my biggest fear. All this work is being done in the ally way behind my apartment as I live in the city and don't have a garage. Completely rewiring the bike is not going to be fun at all.
9. I hate to let something like this beat me but I'm a few troubleshooting steps from hauling it to a pro.
Starter ground is my number one suspect right now. I'll do some research on how to test this and see what I can find.
Thank again for your help, any more ideas come to mind please shout them out.