A question for the guys in relationships

[Swapmeet Louie]

Yeah man, my wife has ridden with one of my best friends before, because most of my bikes are one seaters. I trust him, and that's the important thing. He rides as much as I do, I have ridden with him, and that is where the comfort comes from with that. I probably wouldn't feel safe with her riding with anyone other than a select handful, because, well, I've seen what happens to newbie riders when they push beyond their limits. And just for the record with this "let" and "allow" talk going on, my god man. Let us be honest. The reason that those of us out here who are happily married have concerns for our wives is BECAUSE pf people out there who have the mentality of "you should allow her to make her own decisions". I'll be honest, the other dudes who are concerned with my wife's free will are the first ones to try something that would normally get them punched in the face. "Hey she did what she wanted, it was her own free will!"

It's a matter of expertise in certain areas. I am constantly put into my place with finances because my wife is an accountant. You'd better believe she listens to me when it comes to motorcycles and all things related, because that's what I do! In real life, it's not like you are making it out to be. It isn't someone feeling "owned" when the other party makes suggestions or demands. That's what makes a working relationship. You build on the strengths that you both possess to make one complete unit. My wife "owns" me, an I "own" my wife. That's a mutual respect thing.

110% agreed. Thats the way relationships work. Any other way, I've tried... And they dont. Just noticed your quote for the 1st time, haha... too funny. I forgot about that post.

Lou

 

[Kanticoy]

Dude, that quote still makes me laugh when I read it. It has to stay. The day I first saw it I was halfway drunk on homemade wine, and man, I rolled for at least half an hour. You sir, are a day brightener Lou, and I love you for it! Hahaha!

 

[flatcurve]

Thanks guys. No apologies necessary from anyone. For the record, it didn't sit right with her either, which is why she asked in the first place. The only reason she considered is because she wanted to see new england in the fall on a motorcycle. Can't say I blame her. But it didn't really take any convincing from me for her not to do it.

 

[4eyes]

"The only reason she considered is because she wanted to see new england in the fall on a motorcycle. Can't say I blame her."

Sounds like a good idea for next years vacation.

 

[Andreas]

There you go. Take her on that ride yourself once you have the time off.

I may be a unreasonable person, but If some gut offered my wife a ride on his bike for no good reason; ie stranded on the freeway, fleeing from serial killers, etc and she accepted, I would blow a gasket.

And if I accepted a ride on a bike from a woman she does not know, she would rip my junk of and mail it to her.

Thats jmust the way we are and it seems to have worked for the past 16 years.

"The only reason she considered is because she wanted to see new england in the fall on a motorcycle. Can't say I blame her."

Sounds like a good idea for next years vacation.

 

[WeberKid]

I think AlthpaDogChoppers has made some very good points that at least 6 of these 11 pages owe themselves to. I've only been with my girlfriend 2 years, but I wouldn't even need to post a thread like this for the simple fact that she would never ask to go on another guy's bike. She only wants to ride with me and I'm ok with that.
She isn't the sort to ask permission, either. If she wanted to ride someone else's bike, she would. that's that. She has the sense to know a dangerous situation when she sees one - probably better than I do! I trust her and she trusts me. Maybe I still have something to learn about relationships though.

 

[Chito]

"The only reason she considered is because she wanted to see new england in the fall on a motorcycle. Can't say I blame her."

Sounds like a good idea for next years vacation.

When I first read that I thought it said "next years vocation" and thought, huh, I wonder how much he'll make giving people rides through new england.

As for the question: Yeah, I'll never be in that situation, because my wife hates motorcycles... and if I am in that situation, I'll know there is some serious trouble.

I could see a lot of guys talking about how great it would be to ride somewhere like that and when some one shows interest in it to you automatically want to include them in it. I would be more inclined to encourage the other person to bring their bike or rent one, but the chopper guys like people on the back of their bike and it just ruins the ride for me.

I gotta say I would really rather meet the guy if he actually wants to get some alone time with my wife, whether it is antique shopping or a cooking class... and you never give another man's wife a foot massage.

 

[WeberKid]

...but the chopper guys like people on the back of their bike and it just ruins the ride for me.

... and you never give another man's wife a foot massage.

serious. more weight and nervous feet in the curves are something I would sooner pass on, myself.