A question for the guys in relationships

[teazer]

The answer is of course that it's a business trip and riding on a coworker's motorcycle is just not appropriate. A trip on the back of a bike is far too familiar and involves close touching that is just not appropriate.

The way I see it is not that you don't trust your wife or the other guy, but there is no way that you would condone putting either into an inappropriate situation where others might question what they are doing. I wouldn't ban my wife, but Id talk to her about the appearance it creates that her coworkers and boss will see and they will draw their own conclusions.

She has to work with the guy and her other co workers and that's not something she needs to sour her work relationships.

If it were a "chaperoned" group outing, and they had all the safety gear and everyone can see that there's nothing out of place going on, it might be OK but there is a risk factor to consider and I would not approve that for my employees.

That's just my opinion.

 

[baconpocket]

i think you have a good representation relationship-wise about the majority opinion (Alpha aside)
how you handle that part should be up to your unique relationship.

do you subscribe to hellforleather? http://hellforleathermagazine.com/2011/08/dont-ride-like-a-bitch/
there's some common sense about pillioning in this article that might be good for your wife to read since she even considered this.

 

[AlphaDogChoppers]

<<Jealousy may play a bigger part in it than I'm willing to admit>>

Finally, you are being honest about it.
Jealousy is another way to say "insecure." You can hide behind the nebulous and flimsy safety angle, but the reality is that you do not trust her completely.

My suggestion, if bluntly offered before my coffee this morning, is that you get over YOUR insecurity. <G>

 

[flatcurve]

<<Jealousy may play a bigger part in it than I'm willing to admit>>

Finally, you are being honest about it.
Jealousy is another way to say "insecure." You can hide behind the nebulous and flimsy safety angle, but the reality is that you do not trust her completely.

My suggestion, if bluntly offered before my coffee this morning, is that you get over YOUR insecurity. <G>

Kind of tired of your "blunt" suggestions, dude. You may not care what happens to your wife (and for all I know that may exactly be what it takes for a marriage to stagnate for over 30 years) but that's not me. Don't for one second think that safety isn't a fucking factor here. I never denied that there were other reasons that contributed to my wish for her to not ride this guy's bike (look at my first post again) but that will always be the main reason. And the suggestion that just because emotion is involved somehow renders my legitimate concerns for her welfare as being moot is fucking idiotic.

How many times do I have to say that I don't care if she rides another guy's bike, as long as it's somebody I know and trust? Fuck, she could hang on by putting her hands in the guy's pockets for all I fucking care, just as long as I'm confident he isn't going to high side with her on the back. But like I said: I DO NOT KNOW THIS GUY

 

[AlphaDogChoppers]

Geez, don't git yer panties in a wad. YOU asked what WE thought. LOL

I am secure and confident in my relationship. Sorry about yours...

 

[flatcurve]

get fucked. I asked what you would do in my situation, and you took the opportunity to question my relationship. I didn't ask you what you thought of my fucking marriage.

 

[Damihr]

Brother,
You have every right to be "WTF" on this. I'd have serious issues if my wife was getting on another guy's bike for a business trip. I'd also pose the question bout giving other women rides on my bike to her. Ultimately it is her decision (I realize that) but it is about respect and honor. BTW, where is the honor from the other guy asking someone's wife to ride to a business trip with him on a bike, thats fucked!! I'd definately be addressing the other guy's intentions... Good luck!!

 

[AlphaDogChoppers]

<<get fucked>>

LOL!
Duuude. You are a real bad ass behind your keyboard.
Seriously, you need a little perspective here. You don't like my perspective, it's YOUR problem. I am offering it as a man who is mature and secure in his relationship. It doesn't matter shit whether you think I am a pussy, or a prick, or whatever. I don't have a dog in this fight. You want to be a bully in your relationship, fine. It does not bode well for the future.

My original advice is grow up. This post reinforces that need.

 

[cleoncleon]

Come on Alpha... be REAL man.
He has every right to feel the way he does.


Calling him insecure is basically calling many of us that, also...
I'm only 22 years old, I got a straight head on, and am quite passive.
I would feel the same, for sure.


It's her desicion, at the end of the day I agree with that.
But hell, flatcurve, make your opinion known, loud and clear brother, tell her what's up.

 

[flatcurve]

<<get fucked>>


LOL!
Duuude. You are a real bad ass behind your keyboard.
Seriously, you need a little perspective here. You don't like my perspective, it's YOUR problem. I am offering it as a man who is mature and secure in his relationship. It doesn't matter shit whether you think I am a pussy, or a prick, or whatever. I don't have a dog in this fight. You want to be a bully in your relationship, fine. It does not bode well for the future.


My original advice is grow up. This post reinforces that need.

Duly noted, Dr. Phil.

 

[Jacob Agaetis]

The point is he asked a yes or no question. Now he's in a Dr. Phil episode with someone questioning his marriage, which seems healthy enough to me.


With regards to the bully comment. Forgive me if I don't see the bullishness in his question. I also don't believe it's standard practice for bullies to going on-line, ask a personal questions regarding relationships, and gain thoughtful insight from fellow hobbiest he's most likely never met.

 

[flatcurve]

it's cool. he got me a bit heated there but at the end of the day he doesn't know me, so bottom line is he doesn't know shit. I'm over it. thanks guys.

 

[AlphaDogChoppers]

So, how does this make you feel?
Do you feel inadequate?
Do you feel insecure?

Maybe you need to buy more leather and get a Harley.

[Jes fuckin' wit chew...]

 

[flatcurve]

Yep... that's totally cool. Thanks brother!

 

[JRK5892]

i have leather and ride a harley... i am a bit confused with what that has to do with anyting?

 

[JRK5892]

and unless i am mistaken... so do you

 

[AlphaDogChoppers]

This is more fun than playing Whack-a-Mole. ROFLMAO!

You young guys are so excitable. One of my customers described it as, "Young and dumb and full of cum." LOL

If ANY of you guys manage to make it to 32 years of marriage, you may realize that none of this means shit. Aw, geez, her tits will be touching HIS back...I don't want her tits touching another man's back....Waaah, WHAAAH!

How pathetic.

I took a friend's wife for a ride one evening. I told him, "You know, if I take her out on my Harley she is going to want to fuck me." LOL

I've taken his daughter for a ride, too.
Guess what. I haven't fucked either of them. (Yet!)

 

[4eyes]

"Would you let your wife or girlfriend ride on the back of some other guy's bike (a guy you have only met once or twice) if you weren't there?"

I think the term "let" is what is confusing the issue.
A lot of people take issue with a spouse "letting" the SO do something. You are both adults, and will do as you damn well please.
That said, a large part of being in a relationship is taking the others feelings into consideration before doing something. And being honest and COMMUNICATING your feelings, is what makes for a strong healthy relationship.

In case you haven't noticed, men and women see somethings differently.
Something that is important to you, may not even be a blip on her radar.

That said, I wouldn't want my wife riding behind someone I don't know, whether in town or across the country. Someone who's riding skills and attitude I trust, no problemo. And I can honestly say that jealousy has NO part in my decision. After a couple of decades of marriage, I know I can trust my wife.
There are things that she is not comfortable with me doing, and things that I am not comfortable with her doing. But that comes down to safety or respect, not trust.

 

[JRK5892]

hahahaha... i find that taking chicks out on a sporty makes them want one thing... YOUR BIKE! where a big twin is more the $$$$$ vibrator that makes em go WOOOO WOOOOO! hahahaha i have a rubber mounted motor in my dyna, with all the motor work i have done on it and true track at a light makes mama tingle! haha

 

[iagsxr]

Ride offering co-worker's hoping to hit it.

Good for him.